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How Can You Manage Premature Ejaculation?
Apr
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common male sexual difficulties. Estimates vary, but it may affect around one in three men at some point. It is not limited to any particular age group.
There is no single “normal” length of intercourse. Premature ejaculation is better understood as ejaculating sooner than you or your partner would like, feeling unable to delay it and finding that the problem causes distress. Clinicians may consider factors such as:
- how often it happens and whether it is only occasional
- whether the pattern changes with a different partner or situation
- the level of stimulation that triggers ejaculation
- how frequently you have sex or masturbate
- whether the problem has been present from the beginning or developed later.
Not every man who worries about ejaculating quickly has a clinical condition. Expectations shaped by pornography, comparison or performance pressure can make perfectly normal variation feel like failure. The situation should be considered individually, including whether both partners are satisfied and whether the timing causes genuine distress.
Premature ejaculation generally means ejaculation happens with very little control, before or shortly after penetration, and earlier than the man wishes. When it is persistent, it can affect confidence, intimacy and relationships.
How ejaculation works
What is ejaculation? It is the release of semen through the penis, usually at the same time as orgasm.
Ejaculation involves coordinated contractions of muscles in the reproductive system and pelvic floor. Sexual stimulation—whether through intercourse, masturbation or stimulation of other sensitive areas—builds arousal until the ejaculatory reflex is triggered.
An involuntary ejaculation during sleep is commonly called a “wet dream”.
The process is often described in two stages:
- emission, when semen moves into the urethra
- expulsion, when rhythmic muscle contractions release it from the penis.
The nervous system coordinates both phases.
Treatment for premature ejaculation
What can help with premature ejaculation?
1) One behavioural option is the start-stop technique. When you feel close to orgasm, stop stimulation and wait for the urge to reduce before starting again. A related method involves gently squeezing the area where the head of the penis meets the shaft for several seconds. These techniques take practice and often work best when both partners understand what you are trying to do.
2) Another option is medicine intended to delay ejaculation. Some treatments are taken before sex and affect the serotonin system involved in ejaculation. Products may be available through our online store, subject to suitability and the applicable prescribing requirements.
Dapoxetine is a short-acting selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor specifically used for premature ejaculation in some countries. Combination products such as Cenforce D and Super Kamagra include dapoxetine together with sildenafil. They are intended for men experiencing both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction and require extra caution because they contain two active ingredients.
Medicines and other options
Some men experience both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. In those cases, improving the erection may reduce anxiety and help with control. Medicines used for ED include:
- sildenafil citrate, used in Viagra and other sildenafil products
- vardenafil, used in Levitra
- tadalafil, used in Cialis
- dapoxetine, a medicine specifically used for premature ejaculation in suitable men.
Reducing penile sensitivity may also help. Options include thicker condoms or a topical local anaesthetic designed for premature ejaculation. Use these products exactly as directed, as too much may reduce pleasure for both partners or be transferred to the partner. Wearing multiple condoms is not recommended because friction between them can make them more likely to split.
Open, honest communication with your partner is important. Pressure and embarrassment often make the problem worse, while cooperation can reduce anxiety and make behavioural techniques easier to use.
If the problem is persistent, began suddenly or is affecting your relationship, speak to a GP, sexual-health clinician or psychosexual therapist. They can help identify whether anxiety, prostatitis, thyroid problems, erectile dysfunction, medication or another issue is contributing.